Who are the mother's sons? And how to live with them further?

In the case when a man is already over thirty, and he has not been married for all this time, then it is worth thinking about.

When a confident adult man in the presence of his mother changes dramatically and becomes a selfish capricious boy, this is the first sign that this is a typical mama's son.

Article plan:

• Mama's son and his characteristic
  
• How to build a future with such people?
  
• Types of mothers
  

Mama's son and his characteristic

It should be noted that mama's sons are not born, they become. Most of all chances to become a mama's son from the man whose mother divorced her husband, the father of the child, or simply was not married and independently brings up the child. But it also happens that mama's sons grow up in complete families. It happens when the mother of the child, too responsible and restless, she controls all the actions of her son, does not allow him to make his own decisions, grow up.

It often happens that mama's sons are quite nice men who can not choose a worthy half. Up to 35 years old they meet with many girls, but none of them seems to be suitable for the role of future wife.


In most cases, such men remain infantile, especially when they were raised by their grandmother and mother in childhood. This type of man is used to the fact that someone makes decisions for them. Even in adulthood, they all continue to hold on to Mom's skirt, already instinctively in need of her protection.

Quite often mama's sons are haunted by a certain fear of women. In every friend or girl, they often see a predator who simply wants to take him to the altar and take possession of the living space.

But it also happens that they still marry and mostly do it contrary to my mother's will. But such marriages are not durable. Basically, loving mothers simply outlive their daughters-in-law from the life of their sons. With all this poor wives have so much to suffer from their mother-in-law during the marriage, that after the divorce, they still can not decide for a long time to create a new family. They are much more cautious towards men.

You can immediately not understand that a man is a typical mama's son, at first they seem to be just perfect men. They are affectionate, gentle and caring. Mostly they do not contradict, they agree in almost everything. The first impression they produce is a responsible and serious man who is always ready to put his strong shoulder and become for you, a reliable support in life.

Maybe all this will end right after acquaintance with mum. Mom immediately out of a sense of jealousy, begins to open his son's eyes to all the shortcomings of his chosen one, even those that do not exist at all. But this is not all the difficulties that will arise.

It is more likely that Mom will claim a major role in the family. Often this is because she is so used to it, and she does not intend to give her son into the wrong hands. It will give you various kinds of advice, interfere in all matters, etc.

Sometimes, it also happens that a man starts to fight for power with his mother, to argue and to perform some actions specifically to spite her. Wedding can also be such an act.

Mama's son perceives other women as a threat to her own freedom. With such a man come to peace and harmony is very difficult. At first he will do something for you, afraid to lose you, but it will not last long.

Such a man is always advised in everything with his mother, even if you have a great life experience in this area.

Маменькин the sonny is lost, when gets to any non-standard situation, starts to behave aggressively and even it is strange. Such men react quite painfully to any criticism from outside, his opinion changes very often. There are also cases when mamenkina's sons do not work, do not help their wife around the house, absolutely indifferently treat relatives and others. But, in spite of everything, they are all very persistent and are able to achieve their goals with a measure. Regular calls and other ways to get his way in his party eventually make most women succumb to their whims.

Almost all weekends and holidays mama's son will spend with her mother, in another way, in any way, she always needs his attention.


Do not be surprised if your husband will discuss with your mom your intimate life, including making love, while all she will give advice on how to improve everything.

Perhaps it will be necessary to get used to the fact that he will always compare you with his mother, whether you cook, clean, bring up children, etc., but what, in his opinion and the opinion of his mother, you donot so, will be criticized.

In this case, the problem is that he just did not see other relationships between the woman and the man, so it will be extremely difficult to re-educate him.

But then it should be noted that mamenkina sons are brought up only by single mothers, this is not entirely true, although in most cases this is the case. Raise such a man can and women who are married, but somehow unsatisfied with their relationship with her husband. Often, any dissatisfaction with her husband, work, life and the fact that they can not cope with this can make a woman splash out all her unspent love for a child or children. Even more, the child's natural love and complete dependence on her child can completely replace her love of all men.

Moms of this type surround people with too much love and care, to the extent that this love simply becomes an insurmountable wall between the world and the child. The world becomes terrible and distant, in those moments when there is not a number of mother and her advice.

It should be noted that first of all, the child in mama's son, turns the unfinished process of psychological separation from the mother. The second reason is the mother's great need for emotional warmth, which falls on the child. And then it happens that in addition to mother, there is no one else. No friends, no one's own desires, no aspirations, no entertainment, but only mom, that person with whom nothing compares.

How to build a future with such people?

Sometimes constant supervision and care, do not give them the opportunity to breathe peacefully. Over time, they get used to the idea that they are infantile, and absolutely unable to take care of themselves. They just do not know how to make their own decisions.

There are cases when young men, surrounded by my mother's care, do not resist mother externally. But in their environment they behave differently, quite naturally to their age and directly to their interests.

If to which type of mama's son your husband belongs, it will be hard for you. In this case, you first need to establish relationships with his mother. But if nothing happens, and life with her husband does not improve, there are several ways out.

• Live alone, apart from mother-in-law, and preferably the farther, the better, otherwise it can move to you. This option, of course, is not suitable for everyone, since not everyone has the opportunity to purchase their apartment, and he does not want to live with his wife's parents.
  
• Just collect your suitcases and leave, and in any case do not delay with divorce. Why waste time, because you also need to arrange your life.
  
• Do not pay any attention to my mother-in-law and go to the end. It will be better if you become pregnant soon. In most cases, the mother-in-law understands that she has nowhere to go, but there are exceptions that go to their victorious end, even without paying attention to pregnancy. It is good that there are not many such mother-in-law. Even if the relationship with the mother-in-law does not add up, she will be the best grandmother. It's just worth all of her attention to switch to a grandson, and most slowly engage in re-education of her husband.
  

Do not forget that there are many pleasures and entertainment in which your mother-in-law can not participate. And then you have a chance to prove to your husband that you are the best, fantasize, be always beautiful, take care of yourself and you will succeed.

• You can try to get along with your mother-in-law, obey her in everything and try to become her daughter. If you have strong nerves, great willpower and a lot of patience, then in this case you will manage.
  

But here there are pros and cons, or rather:

Pros: if you succeed, then believe that you will be like a stone wall. The husband will always be satisfied, there will be no problems with the household, the children will always be under supervision. In any case, the mother-in-law will at first assume that you are not suitable for anything, and do not know how to do anything, and will inspire it to your son. As a result, she will tell everyone that she taught you everything, etc. You and with this have to accept.

Cons: will have to live, as the mother-in-law lives, everything should be obeyed, entrust her with the upbringing of her children. You can forget about your interests, opinions and hobbies immediately. All this will constantly be subject to criticism and condemnation. You will be given advice on how to live properly, how to communicate, dress, etc.

• If you are an adult and an independent woman held. To everything else, similar to his mother, then everything is in your hands. In this case, your mother-in-law will see in you only a worthy substitute for herself.
  

But take into account the fact that in this case, you yourself get a man who will need to drag himself for life, another child. Take care of your man, but do it in moderation. You do not need to become a second mummy for him.

Do not also blame your husband for excessive love for his mother and should not be criticized. Let him at least not quickly, but he becomes an independent man.

Types of mothers

If you determine to which type his mother belongs, then you can find an exit as it is easier to disarm it.

Cook
This type of moms constantly pursues a sense of fear that her son will not be fed and hungry. Therefore, such a mommy should not say that today you will have dinner dumplings bought, otherwise, so you just sign your own verdict. And the next day she will come to visit you with her cooking. Either worse, if she every day after work will entice him to his dinner. And since men are weak creatures, you are simply at risk of spending another night at her company.

Therefore, for starters, it is worth inviting to visit and show her a refrigerator full of food, and prepare some delicious things for yourself, let it become clear to her that her hunger does not threaten her. Perhaps, until the end you will not be able to convince her that next to you it is not worse, but still it is worth starting to master his favorite recipes of dishes. Over time, you can learn how to cook his favorite patties better than his mother.

Furia
This type of women are strong, dominant women over their son with a bitchy character. Such a woman can have her own idea of ​​a potential daughter-in-law, if she does not like you, then in any way she will try to destroy your relationship. Perhaps she will think that you are not quite good for her son.

With such a mummy, it's better not to go to the conflict, but to be rude to just smile and try to please her in everything. If this method does not help, then it means that the mother thinks you are weak-willed and unremarkable creature, and therefore will continue to behave with you and further unceremoniously. In this case it is better to keep the cold distance. Just try to let her know that you respect yourself and tolerate such behavior of her just do not intend. Do not also hide that you personally dislike her behavior. But in the event that he does not like the soul in his mother, then every criticism in her address will hurt his heart.

Commander in a skirt
For such a woman it is common to complain about health all the time, although in appearance she is always energetic and active. Her favorite subject is medicine. Even on the day off, when you will rest with the whole family, she can call and tell her that she is ill and she dies.

The whole family will need to undermine and rush to Mom. But how can she be in full health, and at once her commanding voice will begin to give out instructions to all, what needs to be done about the house, etc. To their child, such women are treated as their own property. Therefore, you should get used to the fact that he will always work for his mother, despite the fact that at home you may not be able to repair the socket.

It is very difficult to live with such a mama's little son, and their fate does not develop in the best way, everyone suffers. Therefore, if you do not want your child to grow up as a mama's son, you should remember from his very birth that he does not owe you anything. He should only be his children, he will have to give them love and care for them. And do not start a family, because you think that he owes you his life, etc., it's not right. Do not make decisions for him, give the opportunity to do it yourself. On the mistakes of others do not learn, they learn only on their own, remember this.

Without experience, a person can not survive, and it is simply impossible to acquire one without experiencing an error on oneself. It always seems to parents that they know how to act properly, etc. But think, how did you gain your experience? So let your child live a full and independent life. If you do not like his choice, just tell him about it, express your opinion, and when he understands his mistake, do not read the notation about how you were right, just support him. Let your son grow up a normal and full-fledged man, who will not for every occasion cling to my mother's skirt. Do not interfere with the independence of the son.