The child is constantly naughty. What to do?
Children who waved their hands, scream and shout: "I want it now!" - Do not make us feel very warm. Therefore, we often retreat. But if you surrender and let things slide, childhood irritability will progress. Alas, this they do not outgrow. And with age, the bad behavior of children only worsens even more.
There are ways and means that allow you to avoid outbreaks of childhood irritability, ensuring the safety of both your children and others.
We have a very moody child. What to do?
Why is your child being naughty? Why does the child fret? This is very important to understand. Because if you change your reaction to his bouts of irritability and stop doing what he wants, the whims stop. Most children use vagaries as a way to achieve what they want. If you repeat sixteen times "no" to your daughter, whoever wants to get a toy that you can not afford, and say "yes" for the seventeenth time, she will understand that she has a way to turn your "no" into "Yes".
Learn how to get involved in time. If you systematically try to avoid whims, they become less likely. Children are usually prone to whims when they are tired, hungry or overexcited. Write down when the most often happen whims. At what time of day? What preceded them? What did you do? What did the child do? If you see that the story repeats, change the daily routine and continue to record the changes. If you do not notice the appearance of the system, make notes on the time of recovery, meals, rest, sleeping and compare with the time when the child fits especially hard. For example, the cause of moods in the middle of the day can be a low sugar content in the child's blood - so he is annoyed. To avoid this, it is enough to give the baby between breakfast and lunch a banana or to transfer lunch an hour earlier.
Do not fold before children who are capricious for wanting something. When you answer the child's request with the word "no", explain why. For example: "No, you can not eat a chocolate mouse until you have lunch."
Children are extraordinarily persistent. They will continue to try to get what they want, especially if the moods used to work. Many arrange "monstrous" hysterics, if the "usual" whims do not help. If you give up, frightened by "monstrous" hysteria, you will have serious problems. You made it clear to your child that perseverance is rewarded, you just have to try.
Babies who have barely begun to walk often make hysterics because they can not do anything. By offering them a choice, you will help them feel less helpless. For example, if you decide that your son will eat soup for lunch, offer him a choice: tomato or chicken. Do not ask if he wants soup if they are not ready to hear "no".
What to do in the peak of the capriciousness of the child?
Before speaking to the child, take a few deep breaths and prepare to implement your military campaign plan. An ungoverned kid does not understand the voice of reason. Sit down or kneel down so that you can look into his eyes. Say that experiencing anger is normal, but it is not necessary to offend everyone. No matter how upset or angry you are, talk calmly. Screaming, slapping and the like will only aggravate the situation. Tell the child that anger should not prevail over him. Explain that everything will be okay. If the baby is waving his arms and trying to hit you, say that you hug him tightly and keep him until he calms down so that others will not be hurt. Children losing control over themselves are usually frightened and, if they are hugged and pressed to themselves, they often calmed down. When the baby calms down a little, take him to another place, so that he finally regains consciousness. If you are at home, it can be a nursery, if in the mall, a swaddling room or your car is suitable.
Children measure their own lives by reacting to them, and if the buzzing and buzzing go unnoticed, they turn to a squeal. If this does not help, they start shouting loudly;then, if you scold and calm them, they find the experiment successful and start again. The kid will sit quietly in your arms if you do nothing, but if you read, he does not have enough reaction, and he immediately goes to hostile actions.
What are your actions after child hysteria?
After noisy bouts of irritability, children usually feel insecure and upset. They need time to get together before talking about what happened. Many are unable to explain or even understand what happened. Disassemble the whim of his emotions. Think of it as anger, plus at least one of the other emotions. When you find opportunities to help children cope with "extra" emotions, they have less need to be angry. For example, an upset child should be helped to get a toy that was put too high;with a jealous older brother it is necessary to spend more time, and to a small daughter who is afraid of darkness, to leave in the evening at a bed a night light.
It's very difficult to communicate with irritable, uncontrollable, moody kids. They say that after the storm comes a lull, but sometimes you have to look for it. Why not let yourself relax in a warm bath? Or maybe it's worth going for a walk alone?