Are the children hysterical?

Some children resemble volcanoes due to accumulated emotions that require regular eruptions with a splash of feelings on everyone and everyone, after which these children calm down and wait for others to clean up behind them. Children with high needs are especially prone to hysterics when their desires are not satisfied. Obedient children can easily be directed to activities that distract them from hysterics, whereas children with strong will, whom you can call stubborn, are not so easily distracted. Look at the tantrums through the eyes of your growing child. He tries to be self-confident, independent, he is very curious, and at the same time he does not have the ability to understand why he should not pick up a crystal vase. There is a conflict between what he wants and what he can have without risk. He understands what he wants, but does not understand why he can not have it. As you teach your child, what behavior is acceptable for you, and he learns with what he can cope with, hysterics are becoming less and less, but be ready for a long time to clap your arms at

this stage of the declaration of independence with a child who has a great powerwill.

Most children who make hysterics calm down if you take them in your arms and press them tightly to your chest like bear cubs. A child prone to hysterics, most likely, will break out and protest if you restrict his movements during hysterics. If you feel that in order for your child to master himself, you need to take him in his arms, keep him on his lap, turning his face away from himself. So you will less restrain his movements, but still give a sense of reliability, which is necessary for him during hysterics. This position is able to help you literally see the situation from the point of view of the child: why does the willed child get irritated when he can not disengage the two details of the designer or his toy gets stuck under the sofa. In this case, sit with the child for a while and share his sorrows. Give your child the right words to express his feelings: "You are angry because. .." By sharing emotions, you are securing yourself one of the best ways to get through the shell to an older child who needs help, but whose problems are not detected soeasily. There is nothing that causes a child to be frank, like a feeling that someone really wants to feel his feelings. If

think, adults can spend thousands of dollars on a therapist to be able to say: "I'm angry."You can not appeal to the mind of the child( or anyone else) amidst hysterics, so wait until he calms down before starting a parent consultation.(Hugs are psychotherapy.)

Fortunately, kids quickly recover from hysterics. Usually they do not grieve for a long time, and with proper support of hysterics the child quickly passes, although the parents can leave without energy. Children's tantrums stop on their own. As soon as your child develops the speech necessary to express emotions, you will see that this unpleasant behavior is passing.

Hysterics with respiratory arrest

This is a five-star tantrum that exhausts the child and terrifies the parents. They often occur after an injury, such as a head injury or a fall. At the peak of anger, the child may shake his lower jaw and he can hold his breath, first turning red, and then blue. At this point, you yourself stop breathing, waiting for what will happen next. When you are ready to panic, the child takes a deep breath( and you too), and everything is in order. Although most children restore normal breathing while on the verge of fainting, some still become limp and faint. These most frightening breath holdouts resemble fits. But right after losing consciousness, the child starts breathing again and looks unharmed. Delayed breathing rarely harms the child, but the parents for a long time knocked out of the rut. Try to intervene with affectionate words and gestures and distract the child before the hysterics reaches this point. Usually it passes between the age of two and two and a half, when the child becomes old enough to express his feelings in words.