Why parents do not understand children
The confrontation between parents and children is classic. Psychologists argue that this can not be avoided by anyone. The fact is that there is a clash of views, concepts, judgments and opinions of two generations. All this forms a vicious circle.
The question "Why do parents not understand children?" Is not correct. Parents understand, but about their life position, customs and morals.
Understanding is the key to everything: a happy family, well-being at work, successful interaction with the outside world. Without understanding something, a person seeks to master information that is inaccessible to him, carrying out searches and searches until the moment of truth. Without understanding, harmonious coexistence in our world is impossible.
But back to the fact that parents do not understand their children. Is it really? What is the reason for this?
Everything flows, everything changes
Along with times, morals change. In the cave times, it was enough to obey and fulfill one's duties. After the era of humanism, children were given almost equal rights with adults. In the modern world, the discipline "Rights of the Child" has been introduced into the school program of junior classes. Yes, in due course the younger generation gets more and more opportunities for personal formation and growth. But is it really for the good?
Universal permissiveness and debauchery of modern youth like a concrete wall separates the younger generation from their parents. The ability to listen, but not hear, is everywhere, and in adolescents it is honed on a professional level. We ourselves raise children who do not want to understand us. How is it possible, after all, do we devote all our strength and time to them? Very simple. Paying attention to the material side of the educational process, we forget about the psychological. It is easier for us to buy a toy for a child than to do something with him with our own hands. We are sorry for the time, the time that can be spent on the pursuit of material values. Hence, parents do not understand children, and vice versa. Whence to understand, if some of us can not even talk quietly with our children?
There are certain types of family education. It is on the nature of upbringing that well-being in the family depends. Undoubtedly, all people are different, so everyone will choose something for themselves, which for another can be unacceptable.
Why do parents not understand children? There are a lot of answers. But, as was said above, parents understand children, but in their own way.
Why does this happen
Parents have already passed all those stages of development and development that are just to be mastered by their children. Errors are constantly accompanying humanity in their life path. The main concern and duty of each parent is to protect his child and ensure his normal and proper development. Young people do not have such a life experience as their parents, so they do not know much and can not assume. Analytical mindset is not inherent in everyone. Therefore, people tend to learn from their own mistakes. Parents just want to protect, protect, protect their children from possible mistakes. Accusing mum and dad in misunderstanding, the child in ten years will understand, how was not right in relation to the parents. But it will be too late. This understanding and awareness is called experience, practical experience, which most of all other inquiries are valued by humanity.
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Often one can meet a simple reluctance to understand your child simply because he is still small. Such parents before the retirement age of their child will consider him a toddler. It is necessary to change the educational position, attend trainings or psychoanalysts, which will help to solve the current situation in the most "bloodless" way.
Why else can parents not understand their child? Just because they do not take into account his opinion. I remember the saying "Children and fish do not have a voice".
Some parents want to realize unfulfilled dreams in their children. This type of upbringing negates the understanding and perception of the child's opinion as full and right. The baby's desires are not taken into account. That's right, only what his parents want.
How to deal with this
At the first sign of a progressive misunderstanding, it is necessary to have a conversation in the family. Do not be afraid to talk with your own children. A calm, balanced tone of parental voices, a measured pace of conversation will help to identify all the contradictions that hinder happy life. It is worth to listen to what the child will say. The initial negation will serve as a barrier to understanding and prejudge the outcome of the conversation. Argumentation plays a very important role. Couple with peace of mind, she is able to persuade and explain even the most ridiculous things. Therefore, for the sake of family well-being, it is worthwhile patience to expel misunderstanding from your home.