Childbirth in the presence of relatives
There are many different views on the presence of a loved one during childbirth. It is impossible to unequivocally answer this question, it is good or bad for the participants of such a secret event. Nobody except you knows better the character and inner peace of a person whom you trust to be present at the sacrament of birth. It is necessary to think in advance how he can react in this situation. Some men find it difficult to bear that they became an indirect cause of the pain that their woman experienced during childbirth. Whoever is elected, mother, sister or loved one, talk to him about the role he is about to give, tell us how the birth will take place, their main stages, how he will participate in them and help. Make it clear that you are waiting for him to support him at a crucial moment, rather than panic, let him emotionally adjust himself to this task. If this is a husband, it would be ideal preparation to be like the family courses of future fathers and mothers, where a competent obstetrician-gynecologist can intelligibly explain how to share the best moments of life together. Almost all maternity homes allow the presence of the father during childbirth, only it is necessary to agree in advance with the head physician about this. There are also medical institutions specializing in joint deliveries, where medical personnel are trained to support both parents. From her husband will need a great endurance and strength of mind, so as not only to observe what is happening, but also to provide all possible assistance throughout the delivery. This is difficult, because what is happening will require from him a constant emotional tension, which even the strongest men can not stand, fainting among them is not uncommon in the delivery room. To prevent this, a man should try to join the process, to share with his wife the difficulties that may arise during the birth of your child. When the father sees his baby, he will feel pride in his actions and deserved thanks to his wife. This will strengthen the happiness and well-being of the family, but only if the father wanted to participate in the childbirth process. A negative result can be obtained if the man went to it under pressure.
The following advice we devote to those husbands or other relatives who still decided to attend the birth.1. Contractions always come suddenly, you and your beloved are waiting for the birth of your child in a week, and he decided to be born now. The main thing is not to get confused, be calm or at least seem so that the wife feels your confidence. This is important, because at the time of the first bouts, even a woman prepared for the upcoming delivery can be frightened. The main thing is to pull yourself together in time. Hug her and say that everything will be fine, you will be there and help her at a difficult moment.
2. Take the clock and determine the duration of the bout and their frequency. If the fights have not yet become regular, that is, the time between them is more than 20 minutes, and the bouts themselves last for several seconds, the first period of labor has not yet begun.
3. Help your wife take a comfortable position, remind that in between the contractions she should relax.
4. Massage her back and lower back.
5. You can offer her water or eat with her digestible food. If a woman gives birth for the first time, the process can take up to 10-12 hours, and the strength you need both.
6. The first bouts can stop after a while, and can go into more severe cuts. As soon as they noticed that they became regular, call an ambulance or a car that will take you to the maternity hospital chosen in advance.
7. In order to avoid problems, call there and find out about the available space.
8. Do not forget to note the duration of fights, over time they become more and more prolonged and intense.
9. Observe the sanitary rules in the maternity hospital, wear replacement shoes and a medical gown.
10. Remember that until there is a discharge of amniotic fluid signaling the end of the cervical dilatation period, a woman should not be tense. Easy acupressure of the lumbar region and limbs, conversation, the correct rhythm of breathing, an example of which you can give her, changing the position of the body every 30 minutes will help her to get out of stress.
11. You can wipe the skin of a woman with a wet towel, if she does not mind.
12. And most importantly, do not forget to praise your wife for the fact that she keeps well and does an excellent job.
13. Do not forget to rest yourself.
14. With the outflow of amniotic fluid, a woman is transferred to a special bed. Let it rest on you, so it will be easier for her.
15. To be more comfortable, stand at the head of the bed, it is covered with sterile underwear, so do not touch it if possible.
Now your wife should completely concentrate on the birth of a child. Maintain it during attempts, holding it by the head or shoulders, leave your hands free, it is convenient for a woman to hold the handles on the sides of the bed to regulate the force of attempts.i6.You should remember all the advice of the midwife
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17. When there is a fight, encourage the woman, if necessary, consider aloud, this increases the tight period during which the child moves forward.
18. When the midwife says that you can not push, breathe with your mouth with your wife. The birth of your son or daughter can take about 2 hours, but when you first hear the voice of your child, you will feel relief and delight. Be grateful to your wife, because you saw what work she did, that your family became even happier, and found its continuation in this small and native baby.
19. Look at your wonderful creature, his eyes also study and get acquainted with you, touch his fingers, these first minutes will remain in your memory forever.
20. Together with your wife, let your child feel how you love him.
Joint births are aimed at strengthening family relations, contributing to the early development of a sense of paternity and parental responsibility before the child. If the young father often spoke with his baby, stroking the belly of the future mother, the newborn can recognize the father's voice after birth. The emerging consciousness of the baby will accept that in addition to maternal warmth, he also has the love of his father.
In Russia, recently began to appear maternity hospitals, which created all the necessary conditions to meet the desires of a woman waiting for a child. If you are thinking about non-traditional births, that is, want to give birth to your child not on the bed, but under other conditions, ask your gynecologist about their existence in your city. An alternative to the usual conditions for the appearance of a child may be childbirth in the water or vertical. The doctor will talk about all the pros and cons of each reception, and in accordance with your health and well-being your baby will advise what to choose. In any case, do not experiment on your own, without the care of doctors and medical equipment.