A new world of paternity
The news that you are a father can cause mixed emotions. Perhaps you will feel happiness, pride and satisfaction, but it is quite natural that your joy will be overshadowed by some uncertainty of the forthcoming appearance of a tiny little man, a part of you.
Your feelings about paternity can be strongly influenced by previous and current circumstances. If you are in a warm and loving relationship with your girlfriend, if you already had a positive experience with young children, if the pregnancy is planned and desirable, if you had a happy childhood, if you have a way of life and financial position to have a child, then you, there may have been a positive outlook on pregnancy and paternity. If any of these factors are not available, it is only natural that you will experience some excitement about the future. However, it should be remembered that paternity is one of the most important moments of a man's life. Regardless of the situation, your life will change, so do not be too surprised if you are full of contradictions, then encouraged.
FIND THE CAUSE OF YOUR DISTURBANCES
It is always better to identify the existing anxieties than to "preserve" them, and if this is your first child, then you are likely to be overcome with some anxiety. With the increase in the period of pregnancy, your feelings can change simply because your girlfriend and you reconcile with the changeability of feelings towards each other and the future child. If it's hard for you to cope with your feelings, openly discuss them with your girlfriend.
How to deal with unexpected news
If pregnancy was not planned, you can experience something like a shock. Contraception, regardless of the species, is not completely reliable, and "incidents" occur. If you find yourself unprepared, you may feel overwhelmed or even angry with the situation in which you suddenly find yourself, especially if you do not have a serious relationship with the mother of the unborn child. However, give yourself time to put up with the situation and consider that you can have a deep, lasting relationship with your child, even without those with his mother, and it's best to start building this relationship - pregnancy.
How to cope with your senses
Many fathers at any given moment of pregnancy feel unnecessary, so you will not be alone if you become a little jealous of a future child. From the very beginning, you can feel that you have been pushed to the second place by this "exceptional stranger" who demands exceptional attention. You can even consider that the parents of a friend, her friends and even doctors took away your duties as a defender and that there is no room left for you. But do not put yourself in the background. Try to show your girlfriend what you can do, but do not demand too much from her, and so is in a psychologically stressful situation.
If you find it difficult to overcome feelings of rejection, discuss your feelings with a close friend, family doctor or professional counselor. Attending courses for parents will give you the opportunity to communicate with other men who find themselves in the same situation;you can get all the necessary information in the doctor's office or local library, you can use the Internet.
Often the best way to cope with anxiety about the lack of feelings is to comprehensively consider the idea of paternity. Today, fathers have many opportunities to participate directly in the pregnancy of their girlfriends, and you can do many things. Plunge into this exciting period together with your girlfriend - in the end the child is waiting for you both.
Sign up for an antenatal training course. You will learn a lot about what is happening with your girlfriend and child.
Look at your child. Ultrasound examination will give you this opportunity. Ask for a picture.
Listen to the child. Approximately from the 30th week, you can put an ear to the belly of a friend and hear how a tiny heart beats.
Feel the movements of the child. From the fifth month of pregnancy, you can feel when he changes position, you can even understand the movements of handles and legs.
Speak, read and sing to your baby. Being in the uterus, he can hear his father's voice, establish a connection with him and support a friend in this process.