Special instructions

One day my father told Seryozha:

- I have a special mission to you, son. ..

- Special? "Sergei started." Very important? "Or maybe even secret?

It's interesting, it's very interesting! Of course, he is ready to fulfill it. And it will! That's just what you need to do?

Father was not mistaken: his son immediately felt like an adult. Who says - the boy? He is already the eleventh year. And teenagers even fought in the war. So what does the pope give him? To run to the plant, to report something very urgent to the director?. . Or go to Moscow? Thoughts replaced one another.

After a short pause, my father continued:

- My mom broke a table lamp. Try to fix it. I now have no time. And you, in my opinion, will be able to do it.

Seryozha chuckled in disappointment:

- We did not pass the lamps during labor lessons. And the physics of electricity has not yet been studied. ..

- But you saw how I corrected. Now try it yourself. You're an adult, "the father pointed out, peering at the son's face." If you do not understand, I'll tell you. "Then together we will check whether the lamp works. Can you imagine how surprised my mother is to such a surprise! Still doubt that you could repair the lamp yourself. It's not so easy. Not everyone is able to. ..

Sergei carefully turned the screws at the bottom of the stand, disassembled the plug, pulled out the wires, carefully examined them. Soon he was happy to announce to his father that he had discovered the place where the wires had broken off.

- Think about how best to put them together, "the father suggested." Soon I'll finish the abstract of my speech, I'll come to you.

Calm, businesslike, adult tone of conversation, without orders, urges, liked the boy. He opened the box where his father's tools lay, found an insulating tape, and stripped the ends of the bare wire. Having screwed them to each other, carefully wrapped the joint with an insulating tape and patiently waited for the father to free. Secondary to call him did not dare. The mother has taught the little son to respect the studies of adults as a child.

- Just concentrate, catch the thought, like a cat, a mouse, - she said, - and you at this time will distract, frighten her. Well, the mouse ran away, the thought disappeared. You know how hard it is to catch her again.

Praise of the father sounded deserved award:

- I did well. Good morning, son!

In the evening Sergey walked imperceptibly to the table, behind which my mother bent over school notebooks, as if by the way asked:

- Is it dark for you?

And then the light flashed.

- Really, baby, did you fix it yourself? Become, just like a father, a jack of all trades. ..

Since then, Serezha has willingly undertook to repair a wide variety of household appliances at home. I thought he was responsible for them. Such independence in the family has always been encouraged.

This is just one of the techniques by which adults skillfully, unobtrusively educate their children's interest in work, cause them the desire to perfectly perform the work entrusted to them. At the same time, by the way, a sense of responsibility is developing.

Unfortunately, not all families use this simple method. Many parents tend to rid the child of all the loads, especially if they have one. Mother, grandmother, grandfather, aunt, grandmother, grandfather - in the end, seven nannies a child grows up as a jerk, a loafer. And it's our fault, adults. The baby stretched to the shoe brush - immediately he says: "Stop, dirty!" He started dressing-we are in a hurry to help, because we are in a hurry. Undresses - we are also here like here: it's time to dine. The house is heard all the time: either I took it, I did it wrong, my father will be better able.

Dad, undoubtedly, will be able to better, but after all children, carrying out the assignment, acquire those or other skills. They live, work, whoever they become - doctors, engineers, builders, scientists. .. And no less, and even more, one must be able to work for someone who chooses a military specialty. And we deprive the child of independence, we are prevented to gain a foothold in such qualities as diligence, persistence in achieving the goal.

Continuous prohibitions, warnings - they say you'll smash, you'll blur, you'll sore, you'll tear, you'll fall hurt, you'll cut the handle, you'll injure your foot - the penne extinguishes the children's desire to do something. The interest in household appliances, which at first attracted the boy so much to him, is lost. And we helped, by the way, ourselves.

Children perfectly catch, approve or not parents their participation in cleaning the class, in the sponsored help of the collective farm, in the clean-up, in the collection of waste paper, finally. They understand everything perfectly, even if we adults do not express our opinion aloud: this work is supposedly good, that is not for you.

Where does our work differentiation come from for pure and dirty, prestigious and non-prestigious? To look after a pig? Sorry! But many people love pork! It makes a great dish.

In the Baltic, parents define teenagers in the streets to sell ice cream on the streets in the summer, and children sell it, surprisingly, willingly, with pleasure. However, some popes and mothers are categorically opposed: we, they say, do not need money.

Is it really about money? The main thing is that from the very beginning of childhood respect for any work is born: a distributor and a research worker, a nurse in a hospital, a pilot and a janitor, a locksmith and a machinist. Any work can become for the person creative, attractive, in any business that who wants, will find itself.

Teach a child to get satisfaction from work, rejoice, if something helped people, is very, very important. This is one of the facets of the moral education of the individual, the formation of a person responsible to society, regardless of his future profession. Without the ability to work, it is difficult to establish in any position.

. .. Soon after graduation, Nastia V. got married. A year later she returned to her parents. Girlfriends indignantly explained the reason for the divorce:

- I also have to work, and cook dinner, and clean the room. .. No, no fucking pipes! It was not for that to grow.

All of Nastya's love evaporated when she realized that in her family life, not only pleasures await her. Since childhood, the girl has not been accustomed to any domestic duties.

Are these facts rare? And where are their origins? Again - in the family. Where a person is formed, his attitude towards work.

The senior operator of the plant F. Gubaidulina was announced that the son, except for everyday help to parents in economic troubles, went with his father to work in a sponsored collective farm in the summer. Together with the certificate of secondary education, the young man got the rights of the driver and the rights of the projectionist. Later, both specialties were very useful to him in the army.

Hero of Socialist Labor Andrei Tsukanov was brought up in the family of builders of Magnitogorsk. And he himself became a steelmaker, a distributor. His sons also chose their father's profession. Children not only love to listen to stories about courageous, courageous people - they want to imitate. The work of such people attracts the guys. Especially if there is a father among them. Therefore, it is not by accident that the sons of pilots dream of heaven, the sons of sailors - about long voyages. Often follow in the footsteps of parents of children of miners, steelmakers. Especially it is noticeable where the family is seriously concerned about the involvement of children in labor.

. .. Nikolai Alexandrovich May - lieutenant colonel, senior lecturer of the Department of Combat Vehicles of the Command Tank School. His wife, Tamara Nikolaevna, is a master of children's clothing, working at home. Why all of a sudden? Because there are seven children in the family. For younger eyes and eyes needed. True, they are accustomed to independence: they learned from childhood to whom to wash dishes, buy food, etc.

The elder, Sergey, was born when Nikolai Alexandrovich was still a cadet. Both in school and at the institute he was distinguished by diligence, purposefulness. Now he is a certified veterinarian.

The second son saw a light in a mountain garrison, near the border. In Moscow, during the study of an officer in the academy, there were two more children. And Bogdan, Tamara, Svetlana, the youngest, were born in Kharkov. All the children, now schoolchildren, are touchingly guarding the smallest kindergarten Sveta.

A small person from the first days of a conscious attitude to life should gradually learn about everything that has been done before him by countless generations of people;recognizing this, he will understand that what was done before him - was done for him. Tell the children sincerely and just a great fairy tale of the past, tell about our sufferings and victories, mistakes and defeats, and our hopes - about everything that tormented and delighted our ancestors, that torments us and excites cheerfulness in our hearts.

Did Tamara Nikolaevna understand, deciding to have such a large family that sometimes it will be very difficult in life? Yes, I did. But I tried to raise children with my reliable helpers. She taught the elders to cook dinner, to clean in the rooms. They, in turn, passed on their skills to the younger ones. They explained, if necessary, lessons. And they did not lay out ready-made solutions for them, but sought to carry away with this or that occupation, the subject. On the advice of parents acted with cunning - like Tom Sawyer, who with apparent pleasure drove the brush on the fence, causing envy of all the boys. By the way, this is a great way to interest children even the most boring business. Frankly admires seven-year-old Tom, how deftly twelve-year-old Tanya knits a hat, bakes cookies.

In a large family, the children develop independence very quickly. One day the children suddenly announced to their parents that they had enrolled in a music school: Tatyana wanted to play the piano well, Alexander and Bogdan on the accordion.

- When will you have time to do it? "The mother clasped her hands." Both in school and here!

However, the more difficulties were registered before the children, the harder they answered: "This does not frighten us."

Oh, and got them at first! And my fingers listened poorly, and with a note of music I suffered enough, and there was not enough time. But how much joy now, when on Sunday or on holidays a home concert is arranged. Older brothers take up their guitars, Tanya sits at the piano, Sasha and Bogdan bring out the melody on accordions. All the "Blue Handkerchief" - a favorite song of the family. ..

are amicably catching up. At the school where the children of Nikolai Alexandrovich and Tamara Nikolaevna are studying, they literally speak of their diligence in one voice. To remove a class for another - please, as much as necessary. Clear the pad from the fallen leaves - with pleasure. Plant trees - will compete for the championship. To help kids get dressed is always ready. For whatever they undertake, they ignite themselves and inspire their comrades. Of course, it was not with the mother's milk that the boys absorbed such a predilection for work. The example was largely taken from parents who, in their very eyes, did not shy away from any work. So the tradition has become established in the house - the first to start any business, if there are at least five free minutes.

Evening. Whole family to gather. We must prepare dinner. Clean potatoes - and then a lot of time is required. They call children in the kitchen. Even the youngest. Hand them special knives, equally divide the potatoes. Now, who is faster? No one wants to yield. It does not matter that the kids do not keep up with their elders. The main thing is that they are attached to the common work, they accustom themselves to any duties to perform not in a certain way, but in good faith, so as not to blush with shame to hear praise.

Finally sat down at the table. Now you can calmly discuss what happened during the day, who brought what notes, what did he did, what are his plans for tomorrow.

Tamara Nikolaevna often remembers how Sergei often began to linger somewhere after the lectures. One day my mother discovered that my son had stained his jacket. Another time I noticed that I had torn my trousers. Did you contact a bad company? Anxiety lay on my heart. But my father is silent, I'm sure it can not be. Not such Sergey. And Nikolai Alexandrovich was not mistaken. At the end of the month Sergei came home shining, proud: he gave the boys presents, boasted a new suit, the mother gave to the farm, besides the stipend, thirty rubles more. It turned out that a whole month after the lectures unloaded wagons with vegetables at the station. I understood that my parents do not have extra money, and I really wanted to buy a suit. ..

Night. Calm down, the children fell asleep. And Tamara Nikolayevna bent over sewing. Then surely the newspapers will look - there's no time in the day. Will go around all the rooms where the guys are sleeping. Since the birth of the first child in the family and to this day, when the seventh child grows up in the house, Tamara Nikolaevna, at work or in short hours of rest, constantly catches herself thinking about children: are they full, healthy, how to dress, leaving for the street? And yet - what they will become? Of course, much depends on them, parents. They tried together with her husband to instil in them respect for work, from their diapers and from others, taking care that in any work the children would find pleasure. It is already evident that this has not been wasted.

The obvious fact is that the vast majority of adults understand: every child in the family must have a certain range of responsibilities, for any age you can pick up errands for the house.

Then why is this not always realized, why many parents do not use up to the end the potential of the family in labor education? And you will agree, sometimes we do not think at all that our excessive guardianship over the child is delayed for too long, forming in it qualities such as selfishness, dependence, infantilism, sloth.

In this regard, try to figure out what is sometimes missed in the organization of the child's activities at home. The most important principles of working education of children in the family are dictated by life itself:

introduction to work through self-service;gradual expansion of duties, their complication;

tactful continuous monitoring of the quality of performance of labor assignments;

training of labor operations in the assigned case;the child's confidence in the importance of carrying out the work entrusted to him;

the account of individual features and inclinations of the child at distribution of labor assignments;

encouraging diligence, self-expression and initiative;

alternation of work and rest, as well as various types of work in the mode of the school day( especially the younger age).

Someone may have a question: why do we talk so much about work, about the need to involve children in it? Is there a logical connection with the theme of heroism, heroism, which served as the main canvas for our book?

We hope you will agree: the connection here is the most immediate. Hardly anyone needs to be persuaded of the obvious truth: those who do not know how to work can not fully assume the great responsibility for the reliable defense of the Motherland, improve their combat and political skills without regret. And then, let's think: are the features of the character developing independently of each other? For example, every day from ten o'clock we raise a good family man, from fourteen - a worker, from sixteen - a patriot, etc.?The personality is formed in the aggregate of all its qualities. Therefore, a good family man, a patriot, and someone who wants to become cultured, to master all spiritual wealth, one must have perseverance, diligence, ability to work purposefully, creatively, enthusiastically. This skill is the greatest wealth of a person.