Organizing the care of the mother from the very beginning.

If you can find someone who will take care of your child in the first few weeks, be sure to do so. If you try to do everything from the very beginning and get tired, you will have to for help and, probably, for a long time. In addition, your fatigue from the very beginning will have a bad effect on the child.

If you get along with your mother, she will be an ideal helper. But if she is accustomed to dispose of and still considers you a child, it is not time to address her. You will want to feel that your child is and that you are raising it properly. You really need the help of a person who has already dealt with children, but more importantly, it is a person whom you are pleased to see near you.

If you manage to hire a housekeeper or nanny for a few weeks, you can always refuse her services if you do not like her. In a sense, it is better to hire a servant - in this case, the mother from the very beginning has the opportunity to completely give in to the care of the child, but it is difficult to find a domestic servant. It is easier to find a nanny who would do some housework, act the way you say, let you feel that the child is entirely yours, and turned out to be benevolent and obedient. If you see that the nanny behaves as if it were her child, not yours, and criticizes all your actions, immediately dispose of it and try to find a better one.

What time do you need an assistant for? This, of course, depends on your means, on your desire to become independent and on your physical condition. As your strengths come, take on more and more daily responsibilities. If after two weeks you will still be easy to get tired, keep an assistant, even if you can not afford it. In the circumstances, this is not a luxury, but a necessity. If you take over everything prematurely, in the long run will cost more - both financially and spiritually. So it's better to hold the nurse for two extra weeks.

Most expectant mothers feel some fear at the thought that they will have to take care of the baby alone. If you experience such feelings, this does not mean that you necessarily need an assistant who would show you how everything should be done. But if you are experiencing genuine fear, an experienced nanny - or relative, if you manage to organize it - will help you a lot.

If you can not find a permanent assistant, try to find a woman who came to you once or twice a week, cleaned up, helped with housework and looked after the child so that you could get out for a few hours.

Regardless of having an assistant, once or twice you will be visited by an incoming nurse.