HE CHOOSE THE CHILD'S HAMMER!

HE CHOOSE THE CHILD'S HAMMER!

Many urban and rural children are hardly engaged in domestic work. Guilty of this are parents who do not allow children to work. You can not, they say, deprive the children of childhood. We perceive children as beautiful, gentle creatures that need to be protected. No words: you need to take care, but you can not protect yourself from work.

If you walk through the village, you will hardly see children in the garden gardens. The gardens today are the lot of adults. But it was different before. I grew up in the village, I was able to chop wood, repair a shed, give hay to a cow. All this I learned from my father. We, the children, competed with each other, who will dig up the garden faster and better. And how envious of our peer Lyonka Titarenko, when he learned to mow before all!

I have a grandson Igor. He will soon be two years old. But he already likes to help his grandfather, when I something I saw, I plan, I make money. Naturally, my grandson's help is only a hindrance for me. But I'm not driving him away. Igorek has already learned how to score small nails. When mother brings him to visit us, the boy first of all pays attention to the door jamb. If the nail is hammered there, ask for a hammer. And he knocks on the bonnet until the nail enters the board. Having finished work, satisfied, goes to his toys.

It is necessary to encourage the desire of children to work. Do not take a hammer from the child!

V.Kurapov,

village of Lazo, Primorsky Krai

How to attach a child to work? Now a lot of talk and write about it. I want to express my point of view.

I have two sons. The elder serves in the army, the youngest is six years old. A significant age difference has its pluses. The accumulated experience in the education of the elder son helps in the relationship with the younger.

The older son grew up, we thought, a hard-working boy. I conscientiously coped with standing orders: to buy bread, to take out a bucket of garbage, to clean my room. The son grew up, and his duties in the house did not change with him. We presented him with understated demands, pitied him. Particularly not loaded - the boy studied at a music school.

After leaving school, his son went to work at the plant to the machine, in the specialty that he received in the school code of criminal procedure. How hard it was to give him the first months of work! It turned out that our son is neither physically nor mentally prepared for serious labor burdens. Gradually I got used to it, began to fulfill and even exceed the norm. But the difficulties of the first days affected negatively, prevented him from feeling a taste for the profession, to fall in love with her. It turns out that our pity turned into harm to his son.

Now I see: it is necessary to accustom the child to the work necessary for the family from a small age. Otherwise, in the future, children will avoid, be afraid of difficult things. Their search will be directed to finding a lesson easier, cleaner. We often underestimate the capabilities of children. They have enough strength for real, serious business. It is real, real. I think that in this direction the family and the school must keep pace.

E. Egorova, Saratov Region

SAVE BREAD!

Different people have different preferences: in one country they like rice, in another they prefer tortillas. But give us the bread. Black, white, rye, wheat. .. How delicious! Sweet, soft, beautiful! Bread is always beautiful - in ears of corn, and in bread.

Bread is our wealth! This sentence flashed, we no longer perceive it, we do not honor the bread.

. .. I remember we went to the bazaar with my mother in the war. She was selling things to buy bread on the proceeds. And once I bought a whole loaf! What we were happy when we carried this loaf home! On the way, my mother would say: "Do not stumble, do not drop, look under your feet!" As if I did not carry bread, but a fragile vase!

Yes, now is another time, we have plenty of bread for every taste. But did he lose the real price? And in our time, grain growers work hard to harvest a large crop so that we do not know the needs for bread. And if you do not teach children to protect and respect someone else's work from a small age, then it's unlikely that they will grow up as defenders of the public domain. ..

V. Gelfand, Krivoy Rog

A GOOD GAME

The game, if well organized,fun - it develops imagination, speech, the memory of the child, and most importantly - educates the children. Therefore, it is so important that the children's games are humane, intelligent.

. .. In the yard a three-year-old boy pulled the hands of an old doll with a rope. Next on the stool is his mother talking animatedly with the neighbors. She is calm: her son is playing. How? It does not matter to her.

- Why did you tie the doll? "Asked the woman passing by.

- I'm a robber, - the kid answered.

- And you know, there was a robber Robin Hood - a very strong, brave man. He did not offend the weak, he helped them.

- And I will help. I'll help the doll escape from captivity, "the kid responded happily.

A miracle happened: an evil robber turned into a brave knight. Only it is a pity that my mother, busy with conversations, did not notice this.

A. Kotov a, Birobidzhan city

BOY WITH

HORNS You've probably seen a lot of them - these young "hunters".Victims of entertaining shooting from the slingshots of adolescents often become defenseless ptahs, neighbor cats, someone's windows, street lights, bulbs in the entrances of houses.

Let's ask ourselves honestly: did any of us try to stop, grab the hand of such a mischief? Very rarely, perhaps. Hooligans even have compassionate defenders: "Oh, and you can not indulge. As if they were not themselves small. We all ran at that age with slingshots. "

Let's think about how immoral, harmful, dangerous this position is. How to convince the boy that it is necessary to protect the national property, if he loves to break the lights in the park?

The words about the danger of dragging a slingshot are not an empty phrase. Once shocked by grief, the eighth-grader Andrei Balakshin's father told such a story.

Andrew got into the eye with a slingshot classmate. He shot almost at close range, from one and a half to two meters, and maybe he did not aim at the eye at all. But he grabbed the slingshot without hesitation, out of habit, as a reliable argument in a petty boyish quarrel. And the other student, who was standing nearby, did not hold his hand with the slingshot.

Andrey Balakshin received a serious eye injury, was treated for a long time. In the end, his eyesight was restored. But not always "overindulgence" ends up safely. In many cases, the "innocent" slingshot leads to tragedies.

"I, unfortunately, often have to deal with such facts," the defectologist of the Saki city department of public education S. Shpakovskaya wrote to the editors. "There are more than one blind child who is accounted for by the fault of the slingshot."

It turns out that those who are lenient towards the slingshot are not right.

B. Matveev, journalist, Crimean region

AS IN THE MIRROR

- No, brown!

- No, it's yellow!

In a tram mother and son argued about the color of the dress of a girl sitting nearby. When the boy did not have enough arguments, he cried out:

- Shut up! You do not understand anything!

Mom flushed, my father fidgeted in the seat and began to shame his son:

- Is this possible?

- You can, but I can not? - The son answered the question.

The boy with childish simplicity introduced all his passengers to his parents, who, evidently, in communication with each other is far from a role model.

It all starts with an example of parents. No matter how mother would punish her daughter: "Be careful!" - it will not work, if she herself is untidy. Children notice everything.

At first, when the children are still small, parents do not see the harm that their wrong behavior causes their own children. And then, confronted with childish rudeness, insincerity, slackness, suffer in conjecture: "Where is this from?" From father and mother, from whom the child took an example.

G. Kobrysenko, teacher of the vocational school, Donetsk

TEACHING YOUR GOOD

People's wisdom says: "I'm sorry for those who live for themselves", "Live for people to serve," "Without good deeds, there is no good name", ", whoever is in trouble teaches, but he who helps out of misfortune. "And the main school of good feelings is the family. It is in parents that children learn to empathize, to sympathize with another person.

. .. Father and son were sitting with fishing rods on the river bank. A man approached:

- Is there a bridge nearby?

- No, only ford. Spring water, ice - take my boots.

The fisherman remained in his toes. And his son sent to translate a passer-by and bring his boots back.

. .. At the station the old woman did not have a ruble. She tramped around the cash register and sat down with tears on the bench.

- Do not cry! How much do you need? "Her neighbor reassured her and, hearing the answer, took out a ruble from her purse.

The child's memory will retain and accept these lessons.

The style of relationships in the family also contributes to the education of kindness in children. And the manifestation of kindness does not mean undemanding. The child wants to see the father and mother are not sentimental dobryachkov, but just, sensitive people. Good deeds, humanity, justice enrich the moral experience of the child.

F. Smirnova, M. Smirnov,

Kirov

THE BLIND LOVE

We were neighbors. Valya has a son Sasha, I also have children. A well-known case, our conversations are more often about them: how they learn, how they behave, what they seek.

To us, neighbors, Sasha brought a lot of trouble: scratches and potholes, which he and his friends left in the entrance, we putty and whitened, changed the burned mailboxes. And Val was saying only one thing: "My son is good, he's good! Nothing that dabbles, all the boys are. "

Sometimes, say Valya: "Why do you allow Sasha to smoke?" In response: "After all, the boy is growing, not a girl."

Everyone was happy when Sasha finished the eight-year plan. Thought, go to school, get a profession, start working, take on the mind. They hopelessly hoped. In the school, as in school, Sasha skipped classes, having fun with his friends. Turn on the tape recorder at full volume, take out the amplifier in the loggia, and thunder for the whole quarter: "A million, a million red roses!" The mother again scolds the friends, and Sasha still defends: "My son is good!"

The mother always loves herchild. But there should not be so blind a mother's love. It does not help such a love for Sasha to grow up as a good person.

V. Polonskaya, Donetsk

THEN PICTURE

. .. Through the open door with the inscription "9" b "I saw a girl washing the floor. On the schoolgirl it was unpleasant to watch

.Afraid to stain the jeans and a white blouse, she gently lowered the rag into the water and awkwardly, carrying it with disgust on the floor.

- Do you wash the floor so?- I turned to the girl.

- At home I do not do it. ..

- Who is washing the floor?

- Grandma and Mom. ..

- What are you doing?

- I'm learning! - I heard back.

"Learn! With the economy we will manage ourselves, "many parents of sons and daughters instruct. And these guys are growing apart from work. Even in the village! At the age of seventeen they can not milk a cow, feed pigs, and feed on grasses. Indifferent to the concerns of their native village, young people leave for the city to "light" earnings.

And parents complain that they do not have assistants in their old age. But after all, as they say, what you sow, you will reap.

V. Khilkevich, a veteran of labor, Smolensk

WHO WE GROW?

I am a military man, I served twenty-five years in the Soviet Army. During this time I saw many young people who became soldiers. And that's what is distressing: fewer and fewer men come to the army, adapted to physical labor. They get good education, they have enough knowledge to comprehend the military sciences, but they can not keep the ax in their hands. Some even take pride in this: they say, why with an ax to wave in the age of electronics?

In the army, of course, a complex technique. But in the army even today without an ax or shovel can not do. For example, to put the same tent, when the unit for a long time goes into the field to the skill. ..

The roots of this incident go, probably in childhood. Often parents protect children from work: it is impossible, they say, to deprive children of childhood. I myself have seen this many times. Later in the autumn I went to see a friend of mine. The owners wore from the pumpkin kitchen garden. Together with them worked their five-year-old daughter.

- Tanya, stop! "The father demanded from time to time." The pumpkin is heavy. "We can manage without you.

- This one is not heavy. I can carry it, "retorted Tanya.

- Well, what can you do about it? - As if to justify the mother.

What does this case say? About many things. The child wants to work - they do not allow him. The time will come, the same parents will wait for help from the daughter, but she will not help. Will have time to learn: parents can do without it.

V. Kurpov, ensign, Primorsky Territory