Own opinion about the newborn
Most of what a child does, he does reflectively. When he gets hungry or gets scared, he automatically screams. He does before he thinks.
Mental views of
Most of the early teachings of a newborn are aimed at obtaining comfort and satisfaction. He wants to be fed, taken up, calmed, and to express all these needs he has one language - a cry. Imagine how your newborn baby thinks: "I scream, they take me in their arms. I keep screaming, they feed me. I shout again when I'm lonely, and they take me in my arms again. "After the 100th repetition of these signal-response scenes, the new
mental image appears in the newborn child, which is expected after the weeping. It would be as if every time a child sounds a signal, a card flashes in his brain( like the ones children use in class to raise the correct answer), and he foresees what is to happen. Specialists in the field of child development call this mental image a scheme. The more mental images, the better the brain develops. Thus, what was first a reflex, a cry, eventually matures and turns into a cognitive or cognitive process, when the child picks up a card showing the solution to his problem and collects all the forces to master the language necessary to get it.
Mother undergoes a reverse mental process. At first, while you are learning to understand the signs you give to your newborn, you think before you do something: "Maybe he's hungry? But I just fed him. Maybe raw? Maybe he is playing me? It's like that! "Having finished this restless mental gymnastics, you learn to react more intuitively, almost reflectively. You do first, and then you think. As you and the child rehearse this signal-response scene, you are both in a state of harmony. You and your child are adapting to each other - a child with the full head of beautiful pictures of how he is cherished by an attached and loving mother, and you are
with a new level, able to understand and reassure your child.
A newborn, accustomed to the functioning of such a signal-response circuit, learns to trust people around him. He knows how to meet his needs through other people. A nine-month-old child, for example, raises his hands in anticipation that Daddy will take him in his arms, and scrolls in his mind a mental card "will take and play", as he expects it.
Developing the views of each about the friend
As the child has mental notions about the reaction of the mother( and father), the mother also represents what the child thinks and what he needs. The child tries to read the thoughts of the mother, and the mother tries to read the child's thoughts.
And what about a child whose signals do not find a response, usually because parents have an unreasonable fear of spoiling the child or letting him manipulate himself? In the child's head, whose signals do not find a caring response, not densely. Such a child does not know what to expect, and he does not have a mental image of what will now follow. There are only empty cards in his brain. Mother also remains empty. Since the child is not accustomed to believing that his signals will be understood, he does not learn to signal better. Mother feels less self-confidence,