How to call. ..
Rules of conduct - as a rule of motion, not knowing which inadvertently someone you will touch or you will crash into a pillar.
It is profitable to be polite. You always will be pleasant to others too.
It is clear that we want to see our children well-bred and often complain about the fact that they pay little attention to the culture of behavior at school, and do not teach etiquette.
But is it not in the family that should be laid?
Ros obedient boy, growing up a sweet girl, and then as a brake broke.
- Where are you going?
- Why should I report?
- How can you talk with your mother!
- It's OK.
The door slammed shut, the elevator buzzed. Father dripped valerian: "Calm down, mother, her age is like that. All of them from time to time rude. "Although the neighbors - a girl as a girl with her mother is affectionate. And generally friendly, always help if you see in the hands of bags. Lucky some. ..
. .. In the train met two women, apparently, have not seen each other, were delighted with each other.
- How's your son?
- It grows, - the reserved answer was complemented by a smile. It's clear: every day something is growing, like everyone else, you do not get bored. Hear this woman more questions, probably with great pleasure would tell about the son, but they did not follow, and the first, as it turned out, was just an introductory chord to the endless solo:
- And we have Mashenka. Oh, you do not know yet, she was two years old yesterday. She is so clever, understands everything, says everything. He wants to go for walks - he carries a coat: "Masha ten", so Masha needs to be dressed. He wants to eat, he carries a cup: "Masya Tian", means Masha - tea. .. And on, and on. ..
The excited mother took a pack of photographs from her bag: "Here is Masya with the doll, here is" Masha "in"xyanki "... The incessant chirp - xia-xia, tu-tu-tu-tu - drowned out even the clatter of wheels. Sitting around the passengers - who read, who knit - turned in surprise to the "Masina" mom. Worst of all was her friend, tired of keeping a polite smile.
The first step of our child, the first word - is not an event for us, is not it joy? I always want to share my joy with others. And yet, what is significant for us can not be as important to others as it is. Forgetting, we risk becoming annoying and ridiculous. That would not be a problem. It's easy to imagine how "Masina" mom behaves when someone comes into the house. Demonstrations are not pictures - Masha herself: "Sing your little song". .. "Tell a rhyme". . And the girl already really understands a lot. Has already learned that she is here the main thing. She climbs the guests to her knees, demands that they stack the cubes with her, watch how she draws."Masha, it's not good," - just in case Mom says, but her daughter dictates to her: "Tell me something about me."Then they will begin to stun guests in this house with gamma: "Masha has rare musical abilities!", Then take pride in her knowledge in English. .. And in petty vanity they will not notice that their future family troubles have already risen and will grow.
With those around us, we are often polite, correct, tactful, but where everything disappears when there are a number of our own
children!
Father came from work, something annoyed:
- Dad, can I go to Marina?
- You have only Marina on your mind! Teach your lessons! I know how I learned! Well, march for the textbooks, and that your spirit was not there!
Someday, and it will respond.
The son-first-grader liked the girl who was put with him for one school desk. I shared with my mother. And my mother on the same day gaily tells her friend on the phone: "Our Nikita already fell in love.""Mom, stop it!" - Nikita has tears in her eyes."Here's a fool, you do not understand jokes."
"Fool" tactlessness does not understand, laughter over his serious feelings and problems.
And what about "pedagogy" in public."Say hello! And they will think that you are impolite. ""You forgot to say thank you."The more public deterrents and remarks, the less you want to follow them. And if the feeling of protest does not arise in children, there is stiffness, stiffness, insecurity, difficulties in communication. Every step, every word, silence - everything finds a response in them.
In the park on the bench young mothers. There are children nearby. They have their own society. Learn to live among their own kind. How quickly they come into contact!"Let `s play".And already friendship, cooperation. Two boys build a city in the sandbox - they erected walls, towers, fortified flags - red maple leaves."Bach!" - where did this girl come from? She crept up, picked up the ball over her head and threw it onto the city. One of the "builders" jumped up, pushed the girl, she rushed to the bench with a bellow, and her mother hurries to meet her, and the conflict is resolved from the position of adult strength. That before her boyish self-defense!"Whose children?"Why allow them to dismiss their hands? ! "
In the aside, a three-year-old girl feeds a squirrel. He puts a palm tree with a nut to the tree trunk, sings: "Bela! Go, do not be afraid, I will give something tasty. "The squirrel descends, takes a nut and raspoglav upwards - on, a branch, gnawing. And again the palm of the trunk. The squirrel descends, but on the way there is another palm: the boy approached, three heads higher. The girl was whimpering, but my mother stopped: "Masha, the boy also wants to feed the squirrel. Now he gave a nut, then you, then he. "Masha looks into the eyes of the "competitor": "Will we take turns? Yes? "The boy is silent, but every time he puts his palm to the approaching squirrel. And his dad, he immediately, nearby, is silent. ..
For adults, all these incidents are not accidents. For the guys - dramas, the struggle between good and evil, undeserved insults, unworthy victories. .. What and how will they turn around?
All the best - for children - the law of our society. And in each family he is refracted in his own way. Tanechke - the first strawberry from the market at a fabulous price. Vanechka - caviar, to which no one dares to touch: it grows, he needs vitamins. The matter, as they say, is a master's thing, not an object for dispute. Another thing worries: the emphasized exclusivity of the beloved child. They do not even try to hide from him that all this is only for you, for you, beloved. Strawberries are already full - a whole bowl on the table, and Tanechka instructively tells his father: "You do not eat, I'll still want later."And parents laugh: small, but smart! They will be indignant after a few years, when a teenager Tanya will demand, do not ask for gold earrings, and the teenager Vanya - a tape recorder, and the arguments that the mother does not have winter boots and father's coats do not work.
Happiness, when children grow assistants. On Sunday, my daughter without any reminders takes up a vacuum cleaner, for a rag. Mom rejoices, praises, daughter even more tries. Accurate, she and the landing will not forget to wash, the mop slides at her door, near the neighbor's, but. .. Her zeal will be stopped here: "There is no need to blur what we all owe to all". .. And there, outside the door, liveslonely old woman.
An interesting and important regularity is noted in almost all of the readers 'letters that came to the competition of the magazine "Than the family is strong": kind, attentive relationships in the family in direct dependence on respect, parents' attention to all people, not only to close ones - to neighbors, to acquaintancesand strangers. That's where we can go to the alphabet of the culture of behavior that we want to teach children.